separation anxiety – YourDesignerDog http://www.yourdesignerdogblog.com YourDesignerDogBlog: The Adventures of Sadie the Yorkipoo Sat, 01 Nov 2014 09:14:52 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.1 Flashback Friday Door Drama http://www.yourdesignerdogblog.com/2014/10/17/flashback-friday-door-drama-2/ http://www.yourdesignerdogblog.com/2014/10/17/flashback-friday-door-drama-2/#comments Fri, 17 Oct 2014 09:29:35 +0000 http://www.yourdesignerdogblog.com/?p=4117 dogs, designer dogs, yorkipoo, yorkie poo, separation anxiety, puppy, clingy

 

When Sadie was a puppy, she would follow me everywhere. There was no such thing as privacy in my house. Of course that was to be expected with a new puppy and I enjoyed the constant companionship. There was just one problem – Sadie absolutely hated closed doors. As soon as she heard a door close, Sadie would go running to see who was trying to keep her out and why. She would cry and scratch at bathroom doors, bedroom doors, even closet doors. It was like she was afraid that if a door was closed, then she was missing something exciting on the other side.

During Sadie’s first few weeks in my family this door issue was especially difficult. You couldn’t go into the bathroom and close the door, because she would get upset. But you can’t leave a bathroom door open when there are other people in the house. So I tried taking her into the bathroom with me. But after a minute or two closed in the bathroom, Sadie would want to get out. It didn’t seem to matter which side of a closed door she was on, Sadie just didn’t want the door closed – period. If I was in the shower or bath and wouldn’t let Sadie out when she wanted, sometimes my stubborn little puppy would pee on the floor in protest. She could have just gone five minutes before and didn’t need to go at all, but she would make a little spot anyway, just to show her annoyance with me. Luckily she has grown out of that behavior, but I’m still trained to leave the door partially open just in case.

Another issue was Sadie’s whining, crying, and occasional scratching at closed doors. Right away I was able to convince her that scratching the doors was a bad idea – all it took was a consistent “No” every time she raised her paw to the door. But the whining and crying was more difficult. I wanted Sadie to know that she needs to make noise if she wants someone to open the door for her, but constant noise and complaining was not acceptable. I have found that is a very difficult distinction for my dog to understand.

On occasion I have been glad that Sadie will complain about a closed door, like when someone accidentally locks her out of my section of our office. But although she has grown out of crying at closed bathroom doors, Sadie still stubbornly whines and moans if a door is closed and she wants something or someone on the other side. Luckily she does not do this all the time, but only when she’s in a particularly stubborn mood. No matter how many times I tell her no, Sadie will fall asleep staring at that door, willing it to open. Sometimes I’m able to redirect her attention so that she forgets about begging the door to open. But it’s only temporary – she goes back to her whining and begging when the distraction is over, only giving up when it’s time for bed.

 

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Separation Anxiety – Flashback Friday #8 http://www.yourdesignerdogblog.com/2014/05/09/separation-anxiety-flashback-friday-8/ http://www.yourdesignerdogblog.com/2014/05/09/separation-anxiety-flashback-friday-8/#comments Fri, 09 May 2014 09:24:46 +0000 http://yourdesignerdog.wordpress.com/?p=297  


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 Like most dogs, Sadie hates being alone. In this flashback photo my sleepy puppy Sadie and I are literally joined at the hip (as I write this Sadie is once again curled up against my hip, fast asleep). We are very lucky to be able to stay together most of the time, as Sadie comes to work with me everyday. But there are times when she must be in the house alone. And to her it doesn’t matter if it’s five minutes or five hours, any time alone is far too long.

As with most of Sadie’s issues, it’s not hyperactivity or destructive behavior I worry about when she’s alone; it’s inaction. When I leave Sadie home alone she goes up to her window seat to watch me leave, and then won’t move again until I come home. No matter how long I’m gone, she will not go to the bathroom (I leave pads out for her of course), she will not drink water, and she will not eat, no matter what kind of food I leave for her. If a friend or family member checks on Sadie when I have to be gone all day, she still refuses to eat, drink, or, pee. She will greet the person, all happy and excited to see them, but then return to her vigil at the window when the greeting is done. Her mommy is not home safe yet, so she cannot relax and tend to her own needs or be bothered with other people. I’m glad that I can trust she won’t get into trouble while I’m gone, but I wore about her wellbeing. If I leave in the winter, she will wait at that window no matter how cold it gets. I make sure to put blankets on her before I leave, but what if they fall off? I have nightmares of Sadie shivering and shaking from the cold, gazing sadly out the window waiting for me to return.
I know that to deal with separation anxiety I’m supposed to gradually lengthen the amount of time I leave her alone, showing her that it’s ok if I’m gone because I always come back. And I have tried that method, starting from when she was a puppy. But if I left for ten minutes or thirty minutes or two hours, Sadie always sat there and stared at the door until I returned. And when I get back she goes nuts, shrieking and crying and barking, as if asking how I could put her through that, like she feels I abandoned her. And so I take her with me everywhere I possibly can, because I can’t stand the idea of her sitting alone in the window, feeling sad and abandoned.
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